so there's this guy i know. let's call him jerkface. i think i've known him for oh, maybe 4 years or so. and for a long time i thought very highly of jerkface. he's tall, handsome, intelligent, funny, the best friend of my dg, the list goes on... so when my best friend and jerkface hooked up, i thought to myself hey this is great. they are perfect for each other. i had never really pictured them together but when sparks flew it just seemed to make sense.

let me tell you in not so many words why jerkface has plummeted on my steph-o-meter of fantastic people.

first of all, let me preface this by saying that i am not an angry person. i get irritated on a regular basis but the issues are generally minute and very temporary. i'd like to think that i am of a pretty stable temperament, or at least that is something i've worked on quite a bit the past few years. but there are some things that people do, namely jerkface, that make me want to throw a person through a wall. or maybe out of a plane or any fast moving vehicle in which the end result would most probably be serious injury or death. my bible says that i'm sinning if i hate my brother, as hatred in my heart is the same as killing him (not in the physical act, but in the graveness of sin...theological discussion...to be addressed at another time that is not now). so we will say that i harbor not hatred but perhaps just extreme dislike and that i wish him not dead but just seriously injured.

he went too far. on a number of occasions jerkface has taken advantage of one of the people i love most in the world and told her he loved her while doing so. he realizes the next day what a bastard he is, apologizes profusely, then proceeds to do the same exact thing again and again as soon as the moral pressure to do what is right subsides. my best friend likes to take responsibility for what has happened between them, but while i understand that it takes two people to be stupid in this area, his lack of honesty and integrity in this matter i think is the underlying cause that enables it to occur again and again. he is in full time ministry, he could become an official pastor in a matter of months, and i cannot imagine that his superiors have any idea that this stuff continues to go on. i'm not saying that i haven't done anything that i don't regret, but this isn't a "well-a-decade-ago-i-kinda-screwed-up-my-life" sorta thing. i just think that the seriousness of this matter is so great...

but aside from that, what i hate most about all this is what it does to the girl. jerkface puts the girl through severe emotional trauma, but then continues to tell her he loves her and basically wants to marry her. and then continues to put her through emotional trauma. so my question to jerkface is this:

do you attribute your existence as an ass to nurture or nature?

because i would really like to know, if at all possible, how i can avoid raising children that are like you.